Doctors, NDs, and parasites: mainstream skepticism but some hope
In my last post I described how my relatives and close friends were reacting to my health situation. Back then there was no doctor I could get to really listen. I was “lucky” most of them were not disrespectful, just looked at me with skepticism or with a weird face and went into the talk about stress and psychosomatic symptoms “we are not saying you’re crazy, there are so many symptoms to stress and so many things you might be feeling” - but I’ve been in my body my whole life and NEVER imagined things/dealt with stress symptoms I wasn’t categorizing as stress myself. I’m been a sane person so far – doesn’t this count? And then came the “maybe you should talk to someone about this” - meaning I’ll write you a slip for the psychiatrist. A couple treated me well but didn’t make a single effort to get closer to the situation. What I was experimenting/saying I was experimenting was off the grid to them. But I was so grateful at the ones that at least treated me with respect.
Over the last years I’ve been out in the world and become a little wiser (or at least I hope so…), as we all do with years. I’ve made my thinking. These are my thoughts and my feelings, I may be wrong, right, or probably in the middle. I’m just a patient. I have never been to medical school or worked with doctors. I really don’t know how doctors think. So this is my opinion, please don’t take it personally if you are a doctor.
I think there is a really big problem of compassion in the medical profession, of a will to listen to patients, of open-mindedness, leaving pride aside and thinking beyond what you’ve been told in college or the “way-to-go manual”. Integral approaches are hard to find too. At least when dealing with strange symptoms or not very well known or studied illnesses and syndromes.
I find that many doctors become “technicians”, they go to college, get their degree and just “apply to the studied knowledge and established rules”. From my perspective this is not enough. Being a technician is ok if you deal with machines, but not with people and a “machine” as complex and still unknown as the human body.
But then there are those doctors, or those alternative health professionals, who become researchers throughout their career, while visiting patients. These are opened to further listening, further research and it is through this that they become lifelong learners, thrive as professionals and have a diversity of approaches to health ailments. Some are NDs, some come from medical school. This doesn’t make a difference. I believe these are the professionals you are looking for when dealing with this kind of stuff. Maybe they won’t know how to solve your issue, but at least most of them won’t send you directly to the psychiatrist or make you feel like crap. Something good when you might be feeling physically like crap, going through scary symptoms or may be very frightened and lost.
I’ve met several NDs lately, because I attended a seminar about parasites for alternative health professionals. You should see these people while they talk about patients and health. This has been a hopeful experience for me. First of all, they talk about patients with a lot of respect, and feeling. They care. Second of all, they are humble. They know there are so many things about the human body that we don’t know yet, so many things that are out of our control. They may be aware of co-factors. They are aware of their limitations, opened and empathic. Nice people to be around.
So, as my friend told me in 2008 and another friend told me this year, there is always hope (probably… some days it is harder to believe, but I think so). If you are dealing with difficult stuff, get yourself around people who will at least try to understand and be of support. Don’t loose time trying to “convince” anyone, relatives or doctors. Probably not worth it. Just keep looking. It hurts but it is what it is. At least this is what has worked for me this year. My parents are not there, and I have somewhat lost a former close friend in the way. But I’ve saved so much energy that I need. And I’m SO lucky some people are there.
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